Friday, September 12, 2008

What kind of wife are you?

Grabbed this from the Smart Parenting board. Read and discover:


Now it is time to describe the wives. Similarly, I have developed descriptions for five kinds of wives. I know many men are sitting on the edge of their seats. There are some wives who are wonderful and represent the ideal kind of wife. On the other hand there are some wives who are a "pain in the neck." What kind of wife are you? Here are my descriptions of the five kinds of wives:

The roaring lioness wife. This is the strong-headed, military-leader kind of wife who bosses everyone around. Similar to the "lion king," authoritarian husband, she is controlling and gets most of her requests done by others out of "fear and trembling." She is often far ahead of everyone, dragging them along with her. Her husband, usually the quiet type, is embarrassed to be with her in public. She is a trouble maker. She has an unhealthy form of independence we call super-independence, and she is not interested in becoming a partner with her husband. This kind of wife perhaps is best described as an aggressor.

The barking, critical wife. She is described in the Bible as "a constant dripping on a rainy day." (Proverbs 25:15). She criticizes just about everything and everyone. Very little positive, encouraging words can be heard from her lips, and she is often stubborn with it. In the home, she is a pest to her children and her husband. At church, her critical spirit stifles growth. In the community, she prevents positive growth. If growth is to take place, it has to be under her influence. This is the kind of woman who was raised not to respect her husband, but to use him. If he does not do what she says, she criticizes him. This kind of wife may be best described as a trouble maker.

The quiet, subservient wife. This is the kind of wife many traditional men dream of having. She is the "yes" woman. She is sweet, supportive, gentle, and very easy to get along with. Because of this kind of personality, she is often used, abused, and misunderstood. This kind of wife usually ends up marrying a "lion king," authoritarian husband who controls her. She is perhaps the greatest supporter of leaders, and is very loyal and committed to them. She honors her husband and was taught to serve him without question. In fact, she has been raised to be dependent on men and values that as her Biblical mandate. However, in her quiet world, she may be troubled, often depressed, and feels used and abused. She cannot express herself because she is "not supposed to." This kind of wife may be best described as a peacemaker.

The popular "nice lady" wife. This is the independent, thinking wife who makes it her duty to treat her husband with respect. She is nice to everyone and because of her attitude, gets along with most people. This kind of wife may be an effective leader (not like the roaring lioness wife who controls rather than cooperates with others). She has creative ideas and seeks to get the cooperation of those she works with. Although she enjoys making joint decisions with her husband on family matters, she believes that her husband has the final say on most major issues. (I think this is me.)

The vitalized-harmonious wife. This is the ideal wife who may be called by theologians "the Christ-centered" wife. She enjoys sharing home leadership and decision making with her husband who values her as his equal partner. When both husband and wife have a healthy form of independence, together they form a vibrant interdependent, harmonious relationship. Together they create a synergy that is unmatched by any other kind of husband-wife relationship. She empowers her husband with her supportive attitude and sensitive communication skills.

Which are you?

No comments:

Related Posts with Thumbnails


  © Blog Design by Simply Fabulous Blogger Templates

Back to TOP